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Tell Me About … Codependency #28

The topic for this time on Tell Me About … is Codependency, but first we would like to thank all of you who linked up posts about Romance the last time. We had a brilliant 21 posts this week so clearly we all have a lot to say about this topic and how it works for us. There is some really thought provoking writing there so if you haven’t read the posts already then please check them out.  We realise that everyone is busy, but if you have the time to comment on posts, that is always encouraging for those who have written them and much appreciated.


In psychological terms, “Codependency is a behavioral condition in a relationship where one person enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity.” ~ Wikipedia (

While codependency commonly refers to the above condition, it can also be seen simply as feeling of being dependent on the other person either emotionally or physically. This could be because of a (temporary) illness, or ageing but may also be due to a lifestyle choice, such as a power exchange, where you have agreed to be reliant to some degree or another on each other for certain things. Codependency doesn’t necessarily have to be a negative thing.

To what extent are you dependent on each other emotionally, physically or socially, and how do you manage that within your relationship? Are you interdependent, both relying on each other for certain things, so that there is a balance? Is co-dependency more of a risk in a power exchange dynamic and if so, what are the dangers and how can you protect against those?

Please note that this is a special collaborative topic so it would be great if you could also link your post to Wicked Wednesday (22-27 Feb) and Sex Bloggers for Mental Health (23-28 Feb).

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